And the way Aunt Fattie explained that they wanted a “safe place” … and that they are fully within their rights to discriminate based on size … that is disgusting!

I happen to be part of the underweight crowd and in no way do I hang out with people that are larger to improve my own self-esteem. If my friends - ANY of my friends - treated me like that it would be pretty obvious that they were not really my friends. Um, hello?
Friends are supposed to be friendly. (xD)
Not backstabbing bitches.
/end rant.

While I agree that pissing people off is a lot of fun and I love doing it, I would never sacrifice my health to make a point. I’d rather be healthy and happy and be able to give them the snub they deserve when I’ve reached their standard of “beauty” as opposed to sitting there like a sullen spoiled child refusing to do anything until someone validated me.

I all agree with middle class fat women not being a victim, but let’s not forget that fat people get bullied for real and for no other reason. If that’s not true, explain how sitting in a bus make you offensive to someone until he start saying to his friend ‘Hey look how ugly the girl is in seat #’! Why someone completly different kept screaming ‘here comes the fat blond’ each time I got near him?

I start losing weight when people stop making fun of me. Then I was more confident and, it’s a cycle, start losing weight and it made me more and more confident. You don’t really feel like making effort for others when you hate them so I had to wait until I met people I wanted to be beautiful and healty for.

I agree 1000000% with this statement. Paying for two airplane seats because your ass eclipses the allotted space =/= being tied to a fence and bludgeoned to death in a freezing Wyoming winter or being dragged to death behind a pick-up truck in Texas.

As for the big girls’ weekend, the thing that disturbed me the most was the re-enforcement of the idea that fat people are somehow a victimized minority on par with other marginalized groups. Ugh. You’re playing the victim card a little early there, Harding. Middle class white women like you don’t get to pretend you’re suddenly on par with brown people in the oppression sweepstakes because you’re morbidly obese.

I’ve never been a fan of identity politics anyway. Ohhh, I always have to hang around people with some superficial similarity to me, or I’ll feel unsafe. Please. What a wimpy, provincial way to approach life.

Beyond all this, just the absolute loathing the FA gals have for thin women is on full display in the piece and in those comments. If you call them on it, they deny it, but the truth will slip out a few sentences later. Not all fat people have this, of course, but it’s an integral part of the FA mindset.

We discussed this thread over at MFS as well

True friends will also not revoke your invitation for something as trivial as this.

Pretty much. Everyone has body issues, just because someones body issues may appear to be lesser than yours at first glance doesn’t mean that they are. These FAM activists are so self-involved they’ve pretty much ceased to see the world around them. Everyone should cater to their whims and support their fat and if you don’t then you’re probably going to end up in hell alongside murderers, rapists, drug company execs, mothers who formula fed and the people behind Grey’s Anatomy.

All it boils down to is “you can’t do this to us, but we can do it to you and we will. In fact, we’re doing it right now. Don’t like it? Tough, we’re a “minority”. I’m still not clear on how they can justify discriminating against everyone but themselves, but hey whatever works for them because it brings us entertainment.

Or not. Aunt Fattie’s defense and attempt to explain K’s mindset is just one example of how warped FAM’s definition of “acceptance” is.

Also, even though this is beside the point, I’m sort of wondering how a beach is going to be a “safe space” for a “fat girls’ weekend” anyway. Rudely excluding your one thin pal isn’t going to protect you from all the other beach-goers in bikinis.